Most prompts take me 1-3 minutes to fill in. This one? Over and hour. And that was for the first two. As I thought about that for a bit, I was struck at how readily I can come up with things to say about others. If someone came to me and asked me to list three nice things about anyone I knew, I could rattle them off with no struggle. Why then, couldn't I do that for myself? In our church, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, I serve as a leader for the 14-15 year old girls. We have a weekly activity on Wednesday nights, and this last week that fell the day after I had seen this prompt from my list journal. At our activity, a woman I admire stood and invited everyone in attendance to think of someone they would like to love better.
This last week I set two goals for myself: 1. Follow the plan I've laid out to love myself more, and 2. stop keeping kind thoughts I have to myself. Two weeks ago I was walking in to a store and walked by a beautiful woman. She was tall, had a perfectly styled top knot, stylish clothes, and a beautiful toddler daughter holding her hand. She and I made eye contact and I smiled. She, however, looked me square in the face and said "You are beautiful!" It wasn't loud or boisterous, but rather a statement that felt as genuine as my love of diet dr pepper, and it took me so off guard I stumbled over and embarrassed "thank you." I thought back to that moment as this last week, and how her comment made me feel. I have thoughts like that about people all the time.
That woman is such a good mom!
I admire her hair.
Look at how patient that woman is as she waits for her fiiz!
The simple act that woman demonstrated by voicing a kind thought changed my whole day. I immediately stood a little taller and felt better about myself. I would love to be able to pay it forward, so I've decided that my two main goals for this year are going to be to love myself better, and voice my kind thoughts and observations. Here's to hoping these last longer than March 1.